I was surprised to learn that Modesty has much more to do with the way we think than the way we dress. Although the way we dress reflects the way we think, the idea of modesty varies depending on where we live.
1. Freedom from conceit or vanity; the quality of not being too proud or confident about yourself or your abilities.
2. Propriety in dress, speech, or conduct; the quality of behaving and especially dressing in ways that do not attract sexual attention.
Above are some images of modesty within different cultures, including the topless Pygmy woman pictured on the right. Notice that none of these women appear to be proud or trying to attract sexual attention.
Women eventually learn what attracts the attention of the men, within their culture, and they will naturally choose to cover or accentuate those areas.
The Learning Curve
Like many young girls, going through puberty, I was naive about the sexual attention I was attracting. My adolescence was filled with insecurities and hypersensitivity to the snubbing I noticed from the girls at my new school.
The neighborhood boys, on the other hand, noticed that I was alone and invited me to join them. I thought I fit right in and they were so much nicer than the girls.
The innocent fun didn’t last long though. It ended abruptly on the day one of the boys came to my house and informed me that I had to choose one of them as a boyfriend. I was to dumbfounded to ask any questions but my choice was between him and his twin brother.
Although most of the boys in Junior High may have been just as naive as I was, this boy already had his agenda and he wasn’t taking no for an answer.
Young girls and boys need to be warned about their differences. Boys are far more visually stimulated than girls. For instance, this is why you rarely, if ever, hear about a woman being addicted to pornography.
It’s dangerous for young girls to think boyfriends can be like girlfriends. Do parents even teach their children about appropriate boundaries? Is anyone teaching them why it’s important we learn to discipline those curious thoughts?
“…you are slaves to the one you obey, whether you are slaves to sin leading to death or to obedience leading to Righteousness (which is Life),” Romans 6:16
Pride is Presumptuously Gratifies its Curiosity.
When a girl doesn’t know the value of her virginity she is extremely vulnerable. She’s an unguarded treasure that draws the confident thief. He doesn’t even have to steal anything from her, because he knows he can persuade, pressure and manipulate the her to give it away as if it were nothing.
He takes pride in doing wrong, even bragging about his conquest to make the other boys envious.
Woman can also take pride in doing wrong. Women also gain confidence when they notice how much attention they get from men, and just how much a man will do to get what he wants,
Subconsciously or not, pride is the flip side of insecurity and both thrive off attention. The kind of attention that is mistaken for value, admiration and even love, even though the opposite is true.
Modesty is the Same as Being Humble.
There will always be those who purposely do wrong and they won’t be the ones reading this article. For those who are genuinely searching to know the heart of their Creator, His Spiritual Word of Truth exposes darkness like a Light.
Just being aware of the lies that we let hold us in bondage to vanity is enough to set us free.
“Then you will know the Truth, and the Truth will set you Free.” John 8:32
There is only One True and Lasting source of Security and it comes from knowing the Unfailing, Eternal, Merciful Loving Kindness of our Creator.
Modesty begins in the heart and its evidence overflows from our mouth, our actions and even how we dress.
“Watch over your heart with all diligence, For from it flow the springs of life.“Proverbs 4:23